Counterintuitiveness: the part of our thoughts that betray us when were overly cautious or project a prior experience onto a new one. Its natural to have this, but acting on it is another story. Sometimes we may feel like were entering into a dangerous situation, or someone means us wrong. Its up to us to keep these feelings to ourselves until its proven. Like red flags...we take note of things happening and being said until we get enough evidence to get the heck out of dodge! These situations are often very exciting for me, as theres a suspense and tension in the air im trying not to let onto. My adrenaline in pumping overtime and Im trying to keep calm on the surface. Making it through this with another person is often a bonding experience...leaving you feeling closer to them than if you had met under normal circumstances. Although the original thoughts may have been bad, theres a real relief that they werent true! Today I had someone flub up with this and pretty much tell me off after I had asked an otherwise innocent question. Thankfully I had the wisdom to comfort this person and let them know I understand and have been there before! The apology was much appreciated:-)